Wellness Prescription: Supporting Your Body Through Forgiveness
Are you holding on to resentment, anger, or sadness? Have been wronged, cheated on, or disappointed by someone else’s behaviour or words? Or maybe you can’t forgive yourself for something you’ve done or said.
No one’s perfect. What is perfect anyway? You are human and you will make mistakes. There will be times where you disappoint others and you cannot change it. You can however acknowledge the situation and work towards forgiveness.
Forgiveness is all about taking care of you, not the person you need to forgive. You have the choice (and power) to release any negative emotions that are lingering in your mind and body, and make a change so you can live a life of peace and rise up to your full potential.
If you continue to recall a negative situation, you’re reliving the past and the negative emotions associated with that situation, ultimately limiting your potential for new (healthy) relationships and new (exciting) opportunities.
The journey to forgiveness is exactly that… a journey. Be kind to yourself, seek support, and nourish your soul, mind, and body. I’ve put together a Wellness Prescription that includes a few actions you can take today to support your mind and body through forgiveness.
Journaling allows you to clarify your thoughts and feelings, and gain valuable self-knowledge.
Here are few questions to get you started:
+ Think of one moment in your life that you haven’t healed from. A break up, a relationship with a parent, a lost job. Describe a painful moment in your life that you have been holding onto.
+ What growth did I have as a direct result from this experience? Have you built resilience or grit? Did it bring you closer to loved ones?
+ Every time I think of the situation or experience, in what perspective will I think of it now?
+ What perspective can you take on should you think back on this situation? How can you show support and self-care towards yourself? For example, if you experienced a break up, I want to feel supported and love. What actions can you take today to show yourself support and self-love?
Mediation & Scent
Find a comfortable, straight sitting position.
Set your intention to focus on your breathing as best you can.
As you focus on your breathing, rehearse the following words: “I am capable of love and forgiveness by giving love and forgiveness. I forgive those who have disappointed me, upset me, betrayed me, cheated me. I release any resentment, anger, sadness lingering in my body, and accept love, support, and growth.” Repeat 5 times.
Visualize the negative emotions flow out of your body as you accept a new state of being.
Gently bring your mind back to your breathing.
After 5-10 minutes, gently open your eyes.
As you meditate and/or journal, diffuse Thyme or Bergamot essential oil. Scents have a way of taking us back to certain physical or mental state, or bring us to a new state of being.
Thyme is an oil of releasing and forgiving - Thyme has the power to dig deep for unresolved negativity and old, stagnant feelings. It brings to the surface negative emotions of hate, anger and resentment, which cause the heart to close. Thyme empties our soul of all negativity and leaves the heart wide open.
Thyme encourages you to become open hearted and patient, helps you release emotional baggage, and forgive others and yourself.
Bergamot is an oil of self-acceptance - Bergamot relieves feelings of despair, self-judgment, and low self-esteem. It supports the individual in need of self-acceptance and self-love. Bergamot invites individuals to let go of self-judgement and see life with an optimistic lens.
Nutrition & Tea
Clearing our negative emotions can be taxing on your nervous system. As you recall specific situations, your body may be physically experiencing past symptoms such as sadness or anger. Reaffirm yourself that you’re in a safe space. Drink lots of water to help cleanse the body.
As we experience stress in our lives, regardless if it’s acute or chronic, our body will protect us by entering a sympathetic state - a fight-or-flight response. Your body is on high alert. Energy and blood are diverted from "nonessential" functions, such as digestion and healing, to the urgent matter at hand. It's an important survival mechanism, designed to protect us when we're in danger.
When we relive past experiences and negative emotions rise us, our body can’t distinguish between “real” and perceived danger. In this instance, it’s important to revert back to deep breathing to signal to your body: “I’m okay”.
As you work through forgiveness, find ways to support your body through this journey. I often enjoy a cup of Woash Wellness tea. Here are two recommended blends:
Woash Digest: The perfect blend of calming mint and bitter herbs to help prepare for digestion by coating and activating the digestive tract before a meal and supporting the system by calming the digestive muscles with antispasmodic properties to relieve discomfort- bloating and cramping.
Ingredients: Peppermint, Fennel seeds, Blackcurrant, Chamomile, Licorice root, Marshmallow root.
Woash Me Time: This aromatic blend of herbs helps to calm the nervous system to reduce the affects of stress and anxiety and promote a more restful sleep. The perfect cup after a long day to unwind or anytime to get into a more relaxed state of mind.
Ingredients: Krishna tulsi, Lemongrass, Lemon verbena, Chamomile, Passionflower, Lavender.
Remember, forgiveness is a journey and it’ll take time to come to peace with your past. Choose to seek help, support, and show yourself unconditional love.
The information contained in this post and website is for educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or other advice. Always seek the advice of your own licensed and qualified medical, mental health, or other health professional.