Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.
Do what you love. Love what you do.
In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.
We've all heard these motivational quotes and thousands of others. We see them flood our Instagram and Facebook feed every single day. And to be completely honest, I have no positive response to them anymore. In fact, the posts overwhelm me. When they first started rolling in and appearing on my Instagram feed, it really sparked something within me. It gave me a small boost, a sprinkle of motivation. But I'm sure like for many others, that motivation didn't last long. We'd read the quotes or articles on motivation and we'd feel empowered, repost them to our accounts, bookmark the article and take one step forward in our journey to achieving our goals. But the following day, we found ourselves feeling unmotivated, overwhelmed, envious, distracted or simply paralyzed by our long to do lists or lack of meaning in our life. Let me tell you... You are not alone.
Now I'm sure we've all reached out to Google at some point in our life to find out "How to stay motivated", read "Motivational stories" or listen to "Motivational songs", but I went a step further. I'm not going to lie, I felt kind of foolish typing this out but what I found was golden. I searched: "how to get out of bed when you feel unmotivated." Yes, I searched those exact words because this morning I stayed in bed several hours after my usual wake up time and my mind started racing and whispering negativity such as "You can't do it." or "Listen, there are other people out there more successful than you, just give up." Harsh words, but we've all been there right?
Now what I found wasn't a list of the top 10 motivational quotes or a list of books I should read or the perfect Tumblr photo. What I found was an article that completely changed the course of my day and allowed me to write this article. It "heightened my awareness of things killing my motivation and a set of tools to help me eliminate them immediately." When it comes to dealing with issues, I'm always looking internally for answers. I am very self-aware of my actions, and I truly believe that we can feel our best and be the best version of ourselves simply by listening to our bodies. It's continuously giving us signs of what we need and what is not longer serving us.
You don’t need anything external to get motivated right now. - Kyle Eschenroeder
In his article Killing the 7 Motivation Murderers, Kyle does a great job in getting to the root of the problem, finding ways to work through it and shinning light on the fact that he to goes through the deepest, darkest days of feeling unmotivated. And still does. The key factors highlighted in the article that kill your motivation are ingratitude, envy, impatience, overwhelm, inaction, loss of meaning and no skin in the game. Here are a few highlights of the article that really resonated with me (the following excerpt is taken directly from the article):
Becoming grateful for your life–as it is right now–is the most important thing you can do to productively move forward. It’s easier to work towards making money when you’re grateful for the money that let you eat (read: “live”) today.
How do we cultivate this? Make a list of things you’re grateful for. And try to make a list of the worst happening to you right now and then find the good in them.
When Envy has you in it’s grasp you’re blind to everything you have (and, OMG–ungrateful!) or you see it as worthless. You are only aware of the greener grass that’s never on your side of the fence. The most peculiar thing is that once you get to the other side of the fence the grass is pretty dull and you discover you left your own green grass in search of somebody else’s.
Envy will make you forget that the only life worth living is your own. How can you be motivated to build in your own life when it’s so hopelessly inferior to those lives?!
• Notice your reactions to the successes and failures of others. • Quit Facebook. • Focus on your work. • Realize that Envy is separate from it’s chosen object.
Being patient does not mean that you have no sense of urgency or that you can’t get things done quickly–you must! Impatience is the insidious thing that creeps up when we hurry. Impatience is what makes us fumble the ball because we’ve already moved on to the next task. It’s what causes us to do half-ass work.
Here are my favourite techniques for killing impatience:
• Have a map. • Focus on the current task. • Faith in the Process. • Study the master. • Take a break.
Overwhelm comes from us putting too many projects on our plate then losing track of them.
These are the ways I get out from Overwhelm:
• Subtract. • Organized. • Lower the bar.
To read more in depth about the 7 Motivation Murderers, check out the original article by Kyle Eschenroeder.
This isn't a one time fix. Getting back on the motivation wagon and working towards your goals is sort of like practicing yoga. There will be days where you are strong enough to move towards a more challenging pose and there will be days where all you can do is lie in Shavasana. Same goes for your level of motivation. Some days you'll gain momentum and move further in your journey and some days you'll take small steps or shift your plan. There's nothing wrong with slowing it down or changing direction. It's part of your journey.
I would love to know your thoughts on the article and learn what motivates you. When are you most motivated? What activities are most motivating to you? What people around you motivate you the most? Share in the comments below.
If you feel that you are living on autopilot and longing for deep meaningful conversations, then perhaps it’s time you joined in on Meaningful Eats. Once a week, I will post a recipe along with a thought provoking topic that will challenge you and help you reflect on your life and goals. It’s never to late to start feeling more fulfilled. Let’s talk!
Beet Soup Recipe
- olive oil
- 2 large beets, peeled and cut into 1/4-inch pieces
- 1 large onion, diced
- 2 tbsp ginger, slices
- 1-2 garlic cloves, crushed
- 1-2 cups vegetable broth (or chicken broth)
- salt and pepper to taste
- In a large sauce pot, sauté onions in olive oil, 4-6 minutes.
- Add onion, ginger and garlic. Sauté for another 2-3 minutes.
- Add beets and broth. Let it simmer for 40 minutes.
- Once the beets are soft, set aside and cool.
- Once cooled, pour it all into blender and blend until it reaches your desired consistency.
- Re-heat and enjoy! *Top with dill (optional).